Episode 507: Opt Out of Victimhood

This show is dedicated to Mark and Nancy Alexander of School Bell Farms. Long time supporters of the show and our LFTN Community. After a long battle with cancer, Mark passed away last Tuesday at home. We will miss his sarcastic wit, new business ideas, and passion for life and he will love in our memories and every time someone pulls a good practical joke at events.

Today, I will share thoughts on victimhood and ways to opt out of the mindset so that you can make the best of what is happening around you. We also celebrate the life of long-time show supporter and friend Mark Alexander of School Bell Farms.


Event Highlights

Tales from the Prepper Pantry

  • Thanksgiving Feast as a Daily Thing
  • Tonight’s Casserole Recipe
  • Firing up the freeze Dryer to finish the rest of the summer bounty currently stored in the freezer
  • Making way for venison and beef
  • Illness treatment from the pantry: mullein, elderberry syrup, herbal teas from Angie’s Gardens

Operation Independence

  • Coaching from a friend on increasing cashflow
  • Purging all the Extras (Flour mill, tractor, cars, etc)

Main topic of the Show: Episode 507: Opt Out of Victimhood 

Thoughts on Victimhood and how our personal reaction to problems furthers the cycle.

  • Feeling defeated/helpless vs acting defeated/helpless
  • Predatory people
  • Self worth and perspective

Signs that you are in a victim mindset

  • Seeking reassurance, validation and sympathy for things that happen in your life
  • Thinking or saying “I can’t”
  • Feeling like the world is against you and you can do nothing about it
  • Taking things personally that are not that at all
  • Listing reasons why offered solutions will never work
  • <Story from my past>

Just because you change your mindset, does not mean that bad things will not happen, but you can draw more bad things to yourself based on reactions to current trauma – often through self-sabotage, pushing good people away through blame, etc.

What you can do:

  • Identify the self-sabotaging behaviors and decide to change what you can (Your reaction to trauma)
  • Leave or change situations that cause harm to you
  • Learn to find what you can do or take responsibility for when bad things “happen to you”
  • Seek outside help to build emotional intelligence
  • Spend time with empowerers and people who are like what you wish to become and cut out the energy vampires – even if they are blood relatives
  • Prioritize yourself

<Story of friend a>

Talk about Mark Alexander and why this topic today:

  • 2 year battle with cancer
  • Never stopped pushing for his dream, to support those around him
  • Gave 110% to every day – even days before his last day
  • Making the most of your dash
  • Could have given up but he lived every second he had
  • Wanna honor Mark’s memory? Make the most of your dash

Make it a great week!

Song: Wolf by Sauce

GUYS! Don’t forget about the cookbook, Cook With What You Have by Nicole Sauce and Mama Sauce. 


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